Dr. Laura Craig-Bray talks about the use and benefits of EFT (Emotion Focused Therapy) – a tool for strengthening relationships through the awareness of emotions and their ties to identity and behavior. Dr. Laura explains what EFT is and details the two “types” of people in relationships: The Pursuer – and – The Withdrawer. This episode is a great look at how therapy can be used to strengthen relationships even when there is no apparent “need” or “problems”.
We live our lives with unquestioned beliefs about relationships, the world, and ourselves that impact our relationships with other people.
What I love about EFT is that we don’t focus on blame or who is “wrong”. Rather, because of our history we often carry into our relationships barriers to intimacy… and by trying to understand those, understand yourself, and make yourself predictable to your partner and to yourself… then you can feel safe.
We talk about Trauma with a capital “T”… but there is also trauma with a little “t” … and what many people experience growing up is that there is no one there to help them learn about their emotional world… in some ways that is a form of neglect because there was no one there to help you understand your emotions and tell you that emotions are ok… that’s a small “t” trauma that we see an awful lot of.