Chad Ford Discusses what creates good conflict resolution and why it is sometimes hard to achieve. Chad shares his experience growing up with a father traumatized by war, his desire to bridge conflicts to create healing, and the path he took to become a world class mediator working in countries like South Africa and Northern Ireland to create peace. Chad talks about the concept of “Dangerous Love” (also the title for his new book) and gives advice for anyone dealing with conflict.
Why is it called dangerous love? Because it requires vulnerability, it requires us to do something that is scary… it requires us to do something that might not be reciprocated by the other person… but it is the thing that will change the dynamic in a relationship in such a way that offers hope.
“Am I right?”
Of course in conflict we are going to feel that we are right… people often say to me “but what if i am right?” and my response to that is there is a way to be right about the facts and wrong about the relationship… and which is more important?
When we are in conflict we become mind readers… it’s amazing! If somebody said something we “know” their intentions, we “know” why they said it, we know EVERYTHING! Even though they haven’t said anything… we need the humility to ask “Do I know, really? And am I giving myself a pass here”